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Digital Estate Planning: What Happens to Your Accounts When You're Gone
Your photos, email, social media, bank accounts, and crypto do not just disappear when you die — they sit locked, often forever. A simple plain-English guide to Apple Legacy Contact, Google Inactive Account Manager, Facebook memorialization, password inheritance, and the digital asset inventory your family will actually need.
40 min read 11 stepsApril 20, 2026Verified April 2026
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Why digital estate planning matters — your digital life outlives you
~3 minWhen someone dies, their physical belongings are fairly easy to handle. The house goes to whoever inherits it. The car gets titled to a family member. The photo albums sit on the shelf. The bank account, with the right paperwork, transfers to the next of kin.
Digital assets are different. They are locked behind passwords. They are governed by Terms of Service agreements that most people never read — and many of those agreements say the account is non-transferable and belongs to the company, not to you. Without specific planning, even your closest family members may not be able to access your email, photos, or money.
What "digital stuff" actually includes:
• Email accounts — Gmail, Outlook, Yahoo, iCloud Mail. These often hold decades of family history, legal correspondence, tax records, and the keys to every other account (because password resets get sent to email).
• Photos and videos — iCloud Photos, Google Photos, Amazon Photos, Facebook photos, photos on your phone itself. Many families say these are the single most important digital asset — the only surviving pictures of grandparents, babies, vacations, holidays.
• Social media — Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter/X, TikTok. These hold messages, memories, and a public record of your life. Left unmanaged, they keep sending birthday notifications for years after someone dies, which is painful for surviving family.
• Financial accounts — online banking, brokerage accounts, PayPal, Venmo, Cash App, Zelle. These often have real money sitting in them. Sometimes substantial amounts.
• Cryptocurrency — Bitcoin, Ethereum, anything stored in an exchange (Coinbase, etc.) or a private wallet. This one is notorious: without the private keys or recovery phrase, the money is simply gone forever. Millions of dollars of crypto have been permanently lost to deaths.
• Subscriptions — Netflix, Spotify, Disney+, Amazon Prime, Apple One, newspapers, magazines, antivirus software, cloud storage, gym memberships, streaming bundles. These keep charging your credit card every month until someone cancels them.
• Cloud storage — iCloud Drive, Google Drive, Dropbox, OneDrive. Documents, tax returns, letters, manuscripts.
• Domain names and websites — if you own teksure.com or yourname.com, those have value and expire if no one renews them.
• Loyalty points and miles — airline miles, hotel points, credit card rewards. These are often transferable to heirs with the right paperwork, but only if someone knows they exist.
• Online businesses — Etsy shops, eBay accounts, Amazon seller accounts, YouTube channels with revenue, TikTok creator accounts. These can have real ongoing income.
• Digital purchases — Kindle books, iTunes music, Audible audiobooks, Steam games, movies bought on Amazon or Apple TV. Most of these are technically licenses that terminate on death, but families can sometimes access the content through legacy tools.
The rough number: the average American has somewhere between 50 and 150 online accounts. Most cannot say off the top of their head what all of them are. A digital estate plan starts with figuring out what you have, then making sure the right people can access it.
Quick Tip
Before doing anything else, just open your email and search for "welcome" or "confirm your account." You will be stunned by how many accounts you have forgotten about — old forum logins, a Groupon account from 2014, a Pinterest profile, that one shopping site you used once. This quick search is the first step toward an inventory.
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What is in YOUR digital estate — taking a quick inventory
~3 minBefore you can plan what happens to your accounts, you need a rough list of what you have. The goal here is not perfection — just a starting map. You can refine it over time. Grab a piece of paper or open a blank document and jot things down in these categories.
Email accounts:
• Primary email (probably where password resets go)
• Secondary or old email accounts you still use
• Work email if applicable (usually handled by employer on death, but worth noting)
Phone and device accounts:
• Apple ID (iCloud email, photos, backups)
• Google account(s) on Android
• Microsoft account (Windows, OneDrive, Outlook)
Photos and videos:
• iCloud Photos or Google Photos (primary cloud backup)
• Facebook and Instagram (many people only have certain photos here)
• Physical locations: external hard drives, USB sticks, old phone memory cards
Social media:
• Facebook
• Instagram
• LinkedIn
• Twitter/X
• TikTok
• Any forums, blogs, or older sites (Pinterest, Reddit, etc.)
Financial:
• Bank accounts — checking, savings
• Investment accounts — brokerage, IRA, 401(k)
• Credit cards
• PayPal, Venmo, Zelle, Cash App
• Cryptocurrency exchanges (Coinbase, etc.) or wallets
• Any online-only banks (Ally, SoFi, Chime)
Subscriptions — list everything that bills you monthly or annually:
• Streaming video (Netflix, Hulu, Disney+, Max, Prime Video, Apple TV+, Peacock, Paramount+)
• Streaming music (Spotify, Apple Music, YouTube Music, Pandora)
• News and magazines (NYT, WaPo, WSJ, local paper)
• Cloud storage (iCloud+, Google One, Dropbox, OneDrive)
• Antivirus / VPN
• Amazon Prime
• Microsoft 365 / Apple One / Google One
• Gym, meal kits, subscription boxes
Other accounts that hold value:
• Airline frequent flyer programs
• Hotel loyalty programs
• Credit card rewards
• Gift cards and store balances (Amazon, Starbucks, etc.)
Cloud storage and docs:
• iCloud Drive, Google Drive, Dropbox, OneDrive
• Any online tax software (TurboTax, H&R Block — they keep old returns)
• Google Docs, Notion, Evernote, OneNote
Domain names, websites, online businesses:
• Any websites you own
• Etsy, eBay, Amazon seller
• YouTube channel with monetization
Two-factor authentication:
• Which accounts use 2FA?
• What is the second factor — text message? Authenticator app? Hardware key?
• This matters hugely: if your family has your password but not your 2FA, they still cannot get in.
Do not feel like you need to finish this list today. Even a partial list is better than nothing. You can keep it in a notebook, a password manager, or a locked document on your computer — we cover safe storage in a later step.
Quick Tip
If you use a password manager (1Password, Bitwarden, Apple Keychain, Google Password Manager), your inventory is already half-built. Just open it and scroll through — every site you have saved a password for is an account in your digital estate.
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Apple Legacy Contact — setting it up on iPhone or iPad
~4 minIf you use an iPhone, iPad, or Mac, your Apple ID is probably one of the biggest parts of your digital estate. It holds your iCloud Photos, iCloud Mail, iMessage history, Notes, contacts, device backups, and purchased music and movies. Apple introduced Legacy Contact in 2021 to solve the "my dad died and Apple will not release his photos" problem.
How Legacy Contact works:
• You designate up to five people as your Legacy Contacts
• After your death, any one of them can contact Apple with a copy of the death certificate and a special "access key" you generated for them
• Apple then gives them access to most of your iCloud data — photos, videos, notes, messages, files, contacts, calendars, downloaded apps
• What they do NOT get: your Apple Keychain passwords, your licensed media (Apple Music subscription, movies, books — these terminate), in-app purchases, and payment info
• Your account is permanently deleted 3 years after Legacy access is granted
Important: the person you designate does NOT need to have an Apple ID or any Apple device. They just need the access key you send them and a death certificate. An access key is essentially a long code (a QR code image or text string).
How to set up Legacy Contact on iPhone or iPad:
1. Open Settings
2. Tap your name at the top (the "Apple ID" banner)
3. Tap "Sign-In & Security"
4. Tap "Legacy Contact"
5. Tap "Add Legacy Contact" — you may need to use Face ID or enter your passcode
6. If you use Family Sharing, you can pick a family member directly. Otherwise, tap "Choose Someone Else" and pick from your Contacts.
7. Tap "Continue" and confirm your choice
8. Apple generates an access key — a PDF/image with a long code and instructions
9. Choose how to share it:
• "Send a Message" — iMessage delivers a copy to the person you picked
• "Print a Copy" — print it and give it to them physically (often the safer choice for paper records)
10. The recipient stores the access key. It does nothing until your death is verified.
What to tell your Legacy Contact:
When you set them up, actually TELL them. Say something like: "I just made you my Apple Legacy Contact. You will get a message with a code — do not lose it. If something happens to me, that code plus a copy of my death certificate is how you get access to my photos, notes, and messages. You do not need to do anything with it now, just keep it safe."
Good places to store the access key:
• A fireproof home safe
• With a trusted family member
• In a password manager under a folder like "Estate Documents"
• With your other estate paperwork (next to your will)
Bad places to store it:
• Taped to the back of your phone
• In an unlocked folder on the same Apple device (if they cannot unlock the device, they cannot get to the key)
On Mac: the same setting exists. Apple menuSystem Settings → your name → Sign-In & SecurityLegacy Contact.
You can add up to 5 Legacy Contacts. Most people do 2-3: a spouse, an adult child, and maybe a close friend or sibling as backup.
Quick Tip
If your Legacy Contact also has an iPhone, use "Send a Message" — the access key will live in their Messages app and be easier to find years later. But also print a paper copy and put it with your estate documents, in case their phone is lost or replaced.
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Google Inactive Account Manager — deciding what happens to your Google account
~4 minIf you have a Gmail account, a Google account on an Android phone, or if you use Google Photos, Google Drive, or YouTube, you should set up Inactive Account Manager. This tool lets you tell Google what to do if you stop using your account for a long time (typically 3-18 months).
How Inactive Account Manager works:
• You set an "inactivity period" — 3, 6, 12, 15, or 18 months of no activity
• Google defines "activity" pretty broadly: signing in, using Gmail, opening the Google app on your phone
• One month before the period ends, Google tries to contact you (email, SMS, phone call)
• If there is no response, Google considers the account inactive
• Whatever plan you set up kicks in
What you can tell Google to do:
1. Notify up to 10 trusted contacts that the account is inactive
2. Share specific data with each contact — pick and choose from: Gmail, Google Photos, Google Drive, Google Calendar, YouTube, Contacts, Chrome bookmarks, Google Pay transactions, Location History, Hangouts/Chat, Play Store purchases, etc.
3. Optionally send an auto-reply from your Gmail explaining that the account is no longer monitored
4. Optionally delete your entire Google account after trusted contacts have retrieved what they need
How to set up Inactive Account Manager:
1. On a computer or phone, open a browser and go to myaccount.google.com
2. Sign in with the Google account you want to set up
3. In the left menu, click "Data & privacy"
4. Scroll down to "More options"
5. Click "Make a plan for your digital legacy"
6. Alternatively, go directly to google.com/inactive
In the setup wizard, you will be asked to:
• Decide how long Google should wait after inactivity (3, 6, 12, 15, or 18 months — 3 is good for most people because your family gets access sooner)
• Add a phone number and recovery email so Google can try to reach you before declaring you inactive
• Add up to 10 trusted contacts — for each one, you pick which data they get access to
• Decide whether to delete the account entirely afterward
Example plan for a typical senior:
• Inactivity period: 3 months
• Trusted contact 1: spouse — gets Gmail, Google Photos, Google Drive, Google Calendar, Contacts
• Trusted contact 2: adult child — gets Google Photos, Google Drive, YouTube
• Auto-reply: "This account belongs to Mary Smith, who is no longer actively managing this email. For urgent matters, please contact John Smith at john@email.com."
• Delete account: Yes, after 3 months
Important details:
• The trusted contacts do NOT get your password. They get a link from Google that lets them download the specific data you chose, and nothing else.
• They will get an email from Google with instructions. They need to go through an ID verification (usually a phone number check) before downloading.
• You should TELL your trusted contacts they are set up. Otherwise when they get the Google email, they may think it is phishing and delete it.
• You can change these settings any time. Revisit yearly.
If you have MULTIPLE Google accounts (a personal Gmail and an old work Gmail, for example), each one needs its own Inactive Account Manager setup. Log into each account and set it up separately.
Quick Tip
Use a 3-month inactivity period unless you are worried about long hospital stays or travel. The shorter the window, the less time your account sits inaccessible after you are gone — which is usually what your family wants. You can also cancel inactivity at any time just by signing back in.
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Facebook Legacy Contact and memorialization — what happens to your profile
~4 minFacebook accounts outlive people. Without planning, your profile keeps reminding friends of your birthday for years, appearing in their "On This Day" memories, and making painful awkwardness for grieving friends and family. Facebook has two tools to handle this: Legacy Contact and memorialization.
What is memorialization?
After Facebook is notified that a user has died, the account becomes "memorialized." This does several things:
• The word "Remembering" appears in front of the person's name on their profile
• The profile stops appearing in ads, birthday reminders, or "People You May Know" suggestions
• Friends and family can continue to post memories on the timeline (if you set that to allow)
• The profile is preserved — existing posts, photos, and friends stay visible to the audiences they were originally shared with
• Nobody can log into the account anymore — even if someone has the password, Facebook will lock it
Memorialization happens when someone reports the death to Facebook using their "Memorialization Request" form, usually with a link to an obituary or death certificate.
What is a Legacy Contact?
A Legacy Contact is a person you designate in advance who can manage your memorialized profile. They CANNOT log in as you. They CAN:
• Write a pinned post at the top of your timeline (like a memorial announcement or funeral details)
• Respond to new friend requests (accept or ignore them — some mourning friends want to be added to the page)
• Update your profile picture and cover photo
• Request removal of the entire account, if that is what the family wants
• If you gave permission in advance, download an archive of your posts, photos, and profile info
What a Legacy Contact CANNOT do:
• Log in as you
• Read your private Messenger conversations
• Remove any existing posts, photos, or friends
• Read anything you hid from them in life
How to set up a Legacy Contact on Facebook:
1. Open Facebook in a browser or in the app
2. Tap your profile pictureSettings & PrivacySettings
3. In the search bar at the top, type "Memorialization" — or navigate to "Accounts Center" → "Personal details" → "Account Ownership and Control" → "Memorialization settings"
4. Tap "Choose a friend" under "Legacy contact"
5. Pick a Facebook friend (they must be someone you are friends with on the platform)
6. Tap "Add"
7. Facebook gives you the option to "Send a message" to let them know. Say yes.
8. Optionally: under "Data archive," turn on the setting that lets your Legacy Contact download a copy of what you shared on Facebook when your account is memorialized.
Alternative option — delete after death:
If you do not want a Legacy Contact and would rather have your profile completely deleted after you die, Facebook offers that. On the same Memorialization settings page, there is a "Request account deletion" option. Choose it if you want your profile erased entirely rather than memorialized.
Instagram: Instagram also supports memorialization (it is owned by Meta, same as Facebook). Family can request memorialization with a death certificate via help.instagram.com → Report a deceased person. Instagram does not currently offer a pre-designated Legacy Contact — it is request-only from surviving family.
Other social media:
• LinkedIn: family can request memorialization or removal
• Twitter/X: family can request removal
• TikTok: family can request removal or account closure
• Snapchat: family can request deletion
None of these have a "legacy contact" system as robust as Facebook's or Apple's yet. For now, the plan for those is: leave instructions in your digital inventory (covered later) about what you want your family to do.
Warning
Once your Facebook account is memorialized, nobody — including your Legacy Contact — can log in with your old password. If you want someone to be able to download your Messenger conversations or see things only visible to you, they need to do it BEFORE memorialization takes effect. Either designate a Legacy Contact who has pre-authorized archive access, or make sure trusted family has a way to log in briefly in the days after you die (through a shared password manager) to export what they need before reporting the death to Facebook.
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Password inheritance — getting the passwords to family without writing them in the will
~4 minHere is the problem: most online accounts (email, bank, Amazon, etc.) require a username and password to access, even if a family member has a death certificate in hand. Some services have legacy contact tools, but most do not. So your family is going to need your actual passwords.
But writing passwords down on paper and taping them under your desk is insecure, and writing passwords into your will is a terrible idea — when a will goes through probate, it becomes a public legal document, and those passwords would become public record.
The solution: a password manager with family sharing OR a physical safe with a master password.
Option 1: Password manager with family / emergency access
A password manager is a piece of software that stores all your passwords behind ONE master password. Modern password managers all have some kind of family sharing or emergency access feature.
• 1Password Families: up to 5 family members, each with their own account, plus shared vaults you can use for "family-wide" logins (like the Netflix password). Each person can designate others as "recovery contacts." Cost: $4.99/month.
• Bitwarden Families: up to 6 users, with shared collections. Free for basic use, $3.33/month for premium families. Supports organization-style emergency access.
• Dashlane Friends & Family: emergency contacts can request access after a waiting period. Cost: $4.99/month family plan.
• Apple Keychain / iCloud Passwords: Apple recently added a "Legacy Contact" type setup specifically for Keychain. If you use only Apple devices, this may be enough.
• Google Password Manager: ties to your Google account. Your Inactive Account Manager settings include whether to share this with a trusted contact.
How emergency access usually works:
1. You pick a family member as your emergency contact
2. If something happens to you, they request emergency access through the password manager
3. There is a waiting period (often 24-72 hours) during which YOU can deny the request if you are still alive and just in the hospital
4. If you do not respond, they are granted access to your saved passwords
This is the cleanest solution. The family member never sees your passwords unless you do not log in for days, at which point they can access everything.
Option 2: Physical safe with master password
Lower-tech but perfectly valid: buy a small fireproof safe for your home. Inside it, place an envelope containing:
• The master password to your password manager (or a handwritten list of your most important passwords)
• The PIN/passcode to your phone and computer
• Recovery codes for 2FA (many services let you print backup codes — print them and put them in the safe)
• Your Apple Legacy Contact access key printout
• Your Google account recovery phrase
• Your cryptocurrency recovery phrases (if applicable)
• Your bank account numbers and any safe deposit box keys
The executor of your estate or your most trusted family member should know the safe exists and how to open it (either the combination, or where the physical key is, or both).
Important: NEVER keep the safe combination written on paper inside the safe. Give it to a trusted family member verbally or store it in a separate location (a bank safe deposit box, for instance).
Option 3: A sealed envelope with a trusted lawyer
If you have a lawyer who handles your will, they can hold a sealed envelope containing your master password and instructions. Your will names them as the holder. When you die, the lawyer opens the envelope and gives it to your executor. This keeps passwords out of the public probate record.
What goes in the envelope:
• Master password
• Location of password manager or digital inventory document
• Any other critical access information (2FA backup codes, etc.)
Whatever method you pick, the key principle is: passwords must NEVER go into your will itself. The will becomes public. Anything in it becomes public.
Quick Tip
If you do not already use a password manager, install Bitwarden right now — it is free forever for basic use and works on every device. Even if you just use it for your 10 most important logins (email, bank, Facebook, etc.), you have already made your digital estate dramatically easier to handle.
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Transfer on Death (TOD) designations — the one-page paperwork that skips probate
~4 minMost banks and brokerage firms let you name a "Transfer on Death" (TOD) beneficiary on each of your accounts. This is separate from your will and hugely simpler. When you die, the account transfers to the named beneficiary almost immediately, with just a death certificate — no court, no probate, no waiting 6-12 months.
What TOD applies to:
• Brokerage accounts (Fidelity, Schwab, Vanguard, E*Trade, Robinhood, etc.)
• Savings and checking accounts (at most US banks — sometimes called "POD" or "Payable on Death")
• Retirement accounts (IRAs, 401(k)s — these use "beneficiary designations" which work the same way)
• Annuities and life insurance (similar beneficiary system)
• In some states: vehicles, real estate, and even business interests
TOD is NOT:
• A replacement for a will — you still need a will for other assets
• The same as a joint account — TOD transfers only at death, while joint accounts give both people access during life
• Available in every state for every asset — check your state's rules
How to set up TOD on a bank account:
1. Call your bank or visit a branch — most do not let you do this online
2. Ask for a "Payable on Death" or "Transfer on Death" beneficiary form
3. Fill it out with the beneficiary's full legal name, address, date of birth, and relationship to you
4. Sign and return. Some banks require the beneficiary's Social Security Number; some do not.
5. Ask for a confirmation copy for your records
How to set up TOD on a brokerage account:
Usually you can do this online in a few clicks:
1. Log into your brokerage account (Fidelity, Schwab, Vanguard, etc.)
2. Look for "Beneficiaries" or "Transfer on Death" in account settings
3. Add one or more beneficiaries with their name, date of birth, and percentage share
4. Save
You can name multiple beneficiaries with percentage splits (e.g., 50% to spouse, 25% to each child). Most platforms also let you name "contingent" beneficiaries who inherit only if the primary beneficiaries are also deceased.
Why TOD matters for digital estate planning specifically:
If your money is in a bank or brokerage with TOD set up, your family gets access to the money WITHOUT needing your online banking password, your 2FA, or your laptop. They just bring the death certificate to the bank.
Without TOD, the account goes through probate — your family may be locked out of it for months while the courts work through your will. Online-only banks (Ally, SoFi, Chime) often have even more complex processes because there is no local branch to visit.
Cryptocurrency and TOD:
As of 2026, most US crypto exchanges (Coinbase, Kraken, Gemini) do NOT yet offer TOD designations. Crypto held on an exchange will go through probate. Crypto held in a private wallet (hardware or software) is inaccessible without the seed phrase — which means the crypto is gone forever unless your family has that phrase.
If you own crypto, the most important thing you can do is store your 12- or 24-word recovery phrase somewhere your family can find it — in a fireproof safe, with a lawyer, or in a safe deposit box. Do NOT store it in a cloud note, do not email it to yourself, and do not keep a photo of it on your phone.
Quick TOD checklist:
• Checking account — TOD set? ___
• Savings account — TOD set? ___
• Brokerage account — TOD set? ___
• IRA — beneficiary named and current? ___
• 401(k) — beneficiary named and current? ___
• Life insurance — beneficiary named and current? ___
• Any CDs — TOD set? ___
• Crypto recovery phrase — stored safely where family can find it? ___
Warning
Beneficiary designations override your will. If your will says everything goes to your three kids equally, but your IRA lists only your ex-spouse as beneficiary because you never updated it after the divorce, your ex-spouse gets the IRA. Review your TOD and beneficiary designations every time a major life event happens — marriage, divorce, death, birth of a grandchild.
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Writing a digital asset inventory — the simple document your family will actually need
~4 minA digital asset inventory is a plain document — Word doc, Google Doc, spreadsheet, or even just a notebook — that lists your major online accounts and what to do with them. It does NOT contain passwords (those go in a password manager or safe). It contains the information your family needs to take action.
What to include for each account:
• Account name (Gmail, Chase bank, Netflix, etc.)
• Username or email address used
• Rough purpose ("primary email," "checking account," "photo backup")
• What you want done with it: preserve / delete / transfer to [person] / cancel subscription
• Where the password can be found ("in 1Password under 'Banking' folder" or "on the list in the fireproof safe")
• Any special instructions ("contains photos from 1985-2010, please download before closing")
A simple template (you can copy this into a document):
DIGITAL ASSET INVENTORY — [Your Name]
Last updated: [Date]
Section 1: Critical accounts (need immediate attention)
1. Apple ID — email: jane@icloud.com
Purpose: iPhone, iPad, iCloud Photos, backups
What to do: Use Apple Legacy Contact — access key is in fireproof safe
Special: Contains all family photos 2007-present
2. Gmail — email: jane.smith@gmail.com
Purpose: Primary email, linked to most other accounts
What to do: Inactive Account Manager is set up — daughter Sarah will get access
Password location: 1Password emergency access
3. Chase bank — checking + savings
Purpose: Primary bank account
What to do: TOD beneficiary is spouse John. Death certificate to Chase branch.
Password location: 1Password under "Banking"
4. Fidelity — brokerage + IRA
Purpose: Retirement savings
What to do: TOD beneficiary is John and Sarah 50/50. Call 1-800-FIDELITY.
Password location: 1Password under "Investments"
Section 2: Social media
5. Facebook — username: jane.smith.123
What to do: Legacy Contact is Sarah. She can pin a memorial post.
Password location: 1Password (for pre-memorialization archive if needed)
6. Instagram — handle: @janesmith
What to do: Request memorialization through Instagram help center
Section 3: Subscriptions to cancel
7. Netflix — $15.49/month — cancel
8. Spotify Family — $16.99/month — keep for family (transfer to John)
9. NY Times — $4.25/week — cancel
10. iCloud+ 2TB — $9.99/month — keep active until photos downloaded, then cancel
... (etc.)
Section 4: Photos and sentimental items
11. iCloud Photos — 50,000+ photos, see Apple Legacy Contact above
12. External hard drive in office desk drawer — has photos 1990-2006
13. Google Photos — older backup, check for anything not in iCloud
Section 5: Other
14. Amazon — personal shopping, some Prime Video content. Cancel Prime, download any purchased content.
15. Venmo — small balance, transfer to bank account before closing
16. LinkedIn — request memorialization
17. Yahoo Mail (old, barely used) — can be deleted
Section 6: Critical info for executor
• Phone passcode: in fireproof safe
• Computer passcode: in fireproof safe
• Password manager master password: in safe deposit box at First National
• Apple Legacy Contact access key: in fireproof safe (printed)
• Crypto recovery phrase: in safe deposit box (DO NOT SHARE)
• 2FA backup codes: printed and in fireproof safe
Where to keep the inventory:
• One copy in a password-protected file on your computer
• One printed copy in your fireproof safe or with your will
• One digital copy in a shared folder with a trusted family member (if you are comfortable)
• Update it at least once a year
You do NOT need to include passwords in this document. The document tells your family WHERE to find the passwords (e.g., "in 1Password" or "in the safe"). That separation is the whole point of good security.
Quick Tip
If the inventory feels overwhelming, start with just the top 10 accounts — your email, your bank, your phone, your main photo storage, and your top 5 subscriptions. Even a minimal inventory covering just those is vastly better than nothing, and you can expand it over time.
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Including digital assets in your will — a simple checklist to discuss with a lawyer
~4 minA will is a legal document. Unlike your digital asset inventory (which is a practical reference sheet), your will is what gives your executor and heirs the legal authority to access and manage your assets, including digital ones. You generally want a lawyer involved in drafting your will, especially if you have significant assets, property, or complex family situations. But you can walk into that lawyer's office already prepared with the right information.
Here is a checklist of digital-estate items to discuss with your estate attorney:
1. A "digital asset" clause in the will
Most modern wills now include specific language giving your executor authority over your digital assets. Ask your attorney to include a clause like:
"My executor shall have the power to access, control, manage, transfer, and delete my digital assets, including but not limited to email accounts, social media accounts, cloud storage, cryptocurrency, online financial accounts, photos, videos, and any other electronic records, under the authority granted by the Revised Uniform Fiduciary Access to Digital Assets Act (RUFADAA) as adopted in [your state]."
RUFADAA is a law adopted by most US states since 2014-2018 that gives executors the legal right to handle digital assets IF the will specifies it. Without that clause, your executor may need to fight individual tech companies for access.
2. Naming a "digital executor"
You can name a separate digital executor (someone different from your main executor) specifically for your online accounts. This is useful if:
• Your main executor is an older relative who is not comfortable with technology
• Your tech-savvy adult child is best positioned to handle the digital stuff
• You want to separate digital management from physical estate management
Your attorney can write this into the will.
3. Reference your digital asset inventory
Your will should reference but NOT contain your inventory. A clause like: "A current inventory of my digital assets and instructions for their handling is maintained separately and is located at [safe / password manager / attorney's office]. My executor shall be guided by this inventory where consistent with this will."
4. Specific bequests of digital content
You can direct specific digital items to specific people:
• "My photo collection in iCloud shall be preserved and distributed by my spouse, Jane, to our children in a manner she deems fair."
• "My cryptocurrency holdings at Coinbase shall be liquidated and the proceeds distributed 50% to Sarah and 50% to Michael."
• "My domain name janesmith.com and its associated website content shall be maintained by my daughter Sarah for as long as she wishes, after which it may be allowed to expire."
5. Instructions for specific platforms
You can include preferences like:
• "My Facebook account shall be memorialized as per my designated Legacy Contact's discretion. It shall not be deleted."
• "My Twitter/X account shall be deleted, not preserved."
• "My LinkedIn account shall be memorialized."
6. Power over subscriptions
"My executor shall cancel all recurring subscription services and digital memberships, except for Spotify Family and Netflix, which shall be transferred to my spouse to continue using."
7. Provision for ongoing online business
If you have an Etsy shop, YouTube channel, Patreon, or other online income stream, your will should specify: who takes over, who receives income, or whether it should be wound down.
What to bring to your first meeting with an estate lawyer:
• Your draft digital asset inventory (or even just a rough list)
• Your state's name (the lawyer will know if RUFADAA is in force and in what form)
• A list of who you want as executor / digital executor / legacy contacts for each major platform
• A rough sense of what you want done with major accounts — preserve? delete? transfer?
Lawyers who handle regular wills can handle digital assets. You do not need a special "digital estate lawyer." Anyone doing estate planning today should be familiar with RUFADAA and basic digital asset language.
Cost: a basic will including digital asset provisions typically costs $300-$1,500 depending on your state and complexity. Some employers offer prepaid legal services that cover wills. Some community legal aid services help seniors with simple wills at low or no cost.
Warning
Every state treats digital assets slightly differently under RUFADAA. Some states default to giving executors wide access; others default to restricting it unless the will explicitly grants it. Always have your will drafted or reviewed by a lawyer in YOUR state — downloaded templates from the internet may not work for your jurisdiction.
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What NOT to put in your will — the passwords trap
~4 minA will is a legal document that, when you die, goes through probate. Probate is a court process that VALIDATES the will and gives the executor legal authority to carry it out. Once filed, the will becomes a public record. Anyone — reporters, identity thieves, estranged relatives, random members of the public — can go to the courthouse and request a copy.
This has one enormous implication for digital estate planning:
NEVER put passwords, PINs, recovery phrases, or account numbers in your will.
Things that should NEVER be in your will:
• Actual passwords to any account
• The master password to your password manager
• Your phone or computer PIN
• Your cryptocurrency recovery phrase or seed phrase (12 or 24 words)
• Credit card numbers or bank account numbers
• Social Security Number
• The combination to your home safe
• 2FA backup codes
• Your Apple Legacy Contact access key
• Any API keys or tokens
If any of these end up in your will, the moment the will goes to probate, they are exposed. Identity thieves specifically monitor probate court filings looking for this kind of information. In some high-profile estates, passwords and account numbers have been scraped from probate records within hours of filing.
What CAN safely go in your will:
• Instructions about what to DO with accounts (preserve / delete / transfer) — not how to log into them
• The NAMES of your trusted people and executors
• The LOCATION where passwords can be found (e.g., "my executor will find the master password to my password manager in the sealed envelope held by my attorney" — this refers to a location, not the password itself)
• Digital asset clause granting authority under RUFADAA (covered in previous step)
• Bequests of specific digital content, by description (not login)
The right pattern:
1. Your will says: "My executor shall manage my digital assets per the separate inventory held in [location]."
2. Your inventory (stored separately, not in the will) says: "Password manager master password is in the sealed envelope with Attorney Jane Doe." Or: "Check the fireproof safe in the office closet."
3. The actual password is in the envelope / safe / lawyer's office — never publicly accessible.
This three-layer separation keeps sensitive info private while still giving your family a path to find it.
A common mistake: "Letter of Instruction"
Some people write a separate "Letter of Instruction" or "Ethical Will" that goes with their estate documents. This is a good practice — BUT only if that letter is stored privately (with a lawyer, in a safe) and is NOT attached to or referenced in a way that makes it part of the probate record.
If your letter of instruction is sealed in an envelope held by your attorney, it stays private. If it is filed with the court as part of your will, it becomes public. Ask your lawyer specifically about how to keep sensitive documents OUT of the probate record.
Another common mistake: naming crypto holdings by amount in the will
If you write "I leave my 2.5 Bitcoin, currently worth approximately $150,000, to my son Michael," you have just told every scammer and identity thief looking at probate records that a recent widow's family has significant crypto holdings. Better: "I leave my digital asset holdings, as itemized in my separate digital inventory, to my son Michael."
For cryptocurrency specifically, treat the recovery phrase the same way you treat the passwords: never in the will, always in a secure physical location that your family can access.
The quick test: "If this ended up on the courthouse bulletin board, would I be OK with that?"
If yes, it can go in the will. If no, it goes in your separate, private, non-probated documents.
Quick Tip
A simple way to think about it: the will is the map, the inventory is the legend, and the passwords are the treasure. Everyone eventually gets access to the map (probate is public). Only the people you trust should ever have the legend. And the treasure is always locked away somewhere physical.
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Conversations to have with family now — the hardest and most important step
~5 minYou can set up every legacy contact, TOD designation, and password manager in the world — but if you never tell your family any of it exists, most of it will not help them. This last step is the most uncomfortable one, and also the one that makes all the previous steps actually work: talking with your family.
Why the conversation matters:
• Your family needs to know that your plan exists, where to find it, and who to call
• They need to know your wishes: what to preserve, what to delete, what to let go of
• They will have their OWN preferences — your spouse may desperately want your old Facebook messages preserved even if you were planning to have them deleted
• Conflicts between family members about digital assets (photos especially) are common — better to surface them now while you can mediate
Who to talk to:
• Your spouse or partner (first conversation)
• Your adult children, together if possible
• Your executor (if different from the above)
• Your named Legacy Contacts for Apple, Google, Facebook
What to cover:
1. Where the plan lives: "If something happens to me, the digital asset inventory is in [location]. The master password to my password manager is [location]. My Apple Legacy Contact access key is [location]. My will is with Attorney [Name] at [phone]."
2. Who is responsible for what: "Sarah, you are the Apple Legacy Contact — Apple will eventually send you a process. Michael, you are on the Google Inactive Account Manager list — you will get an email from Google. John, you are the primary executor and have the sealed envelope from the attorney."
3. Your preferences on the emotional stuff:
Photos — "I want all the iCloud photos preserved. Download them, put them on an external drive, share them among the kids and grandkids. Do not delete anything."
Social media — "Memorialize Facebook, delete Twitter, keep Instagram up for a year then delete. Do not post anything about my death on my accounts."
Email — "Read whatever you need to read for practical purposes — bills, taxes, subscriptions. Do not read my personal old messages unless you really need to. Close the account when you are done."
Online writing / blog / YouTube — "Keep these up for as long as you want. They are part of my legacy. If you ever want to take them down, that is fine too."
Online financial — "The TOD forms handle the main accounts. Venmo has a few hundred dollars — just transfer it to the estate. Crypto is in the safe deposit box, the recovery phrase is in the sealed envelope."
Subscriptions — "Cancel everything except Spotify Family — keep that one so the grandkids do not lose their music."
4. What you do NOT want preserved: this one is hard but worth doing. Some people have old personal correspondence, embarrassing photos, draft writings, journal entries in Apple Notes, etc. that they would prefer nobody read after they die. Tell your family: "I do not want anyone reading my Apple Notes — please delete them without reading. Same with my Drafts folder in Gmail. It is not that there is anything bad, just personal things that are not for anyone else's eyes."
Your family will honor this if you are clear. They will NOT honor it if they have to guess.
5. Practical timeline: "If something happens, here is roughly the order of operations: (1) Get several certified death certificates — you will need 10-15 copies. (2) Call my lawyer. (3) Handle funeral and immediate practical stuff. (4) In the first month, cancel subscriptions (they keep billing), memorialize Facebook, start the Apple Legacy Contact process. (5) Over months 2-6, work through each account systematically with the inventory. (6) Within the first year, close out accounts that are not being preserved."
How to have the conversation:
• Pick a quiet time, not a holiday
• Start small: "I have been putting together some information about my accounts and digital stuff. I want to walk you through where it all is, just in case."
• Do not frame it as "I am planning to die soon" — frame it as "I am being organized"
• Bring your inventory document. Walk through it page by page.
• Answer questions, but also listen for family preferences. Your daughter may say "please do not delete your blog, it means a lot to me" — good to know in advance.
• Write down anything that comes up so you can update your plan
Digital estate is ultimately about care. It is the last gift you can give your family: not leaving them scrambling, not leaving them locked out of photos, not leaving them paying Netflix $15.99/month for 3 years because nobody knew the login. Ten hours of planning today saves them a hundred hours of frustration and grief later.
You do not need to do all of this in one afternoon. Start with the biggest accounts: email, iCloud/Google, bank. Set up Legacy Contacts. Tell ONE family member about it this week. Then keep building from there.
Quick Tip
Do this with your parents or in-laws if they are still alive. Many adult children have horror stories about losing access to a parent's iCloud Photos, unable to cancel a parent's Cox internet subscription, locked out of their memorialization of Facebook. Offer to sit with an aging parent for an afternoon and help them set up Apple Legacy Contact, Google Inactive Account Manager, TOD designations, and a simple inventory. It is one of the most meaningful and practical gifts you can give.
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Here is a scenario almost no one plans for: you pass away peacefully at 84. Your family gathers. Eventually, your daughter goes to your phone to find the photos of your grandchildren she knows are there, to share at the memorial. The phone is locked. She does not know the passcode. She calls Apple. Apple is sympathetic but firm: without a court order, they cannot grant access. She tries to log in to your email to see old messages from her father (your late husband). Google asks for a password she does not have. She wants to cancel your monthly subscriptions — Netflix, Prime, the newspaper, the three streaming services, the $89/year antivirus — but she does not know which ones you had, and most require your login to cancel. Your Facebook sits there, with birthday reminders still going out to your friends for years, because nobody knows how to take it down.
This is not a made-up worst case. This is what happens to most families today. We spend 40+ years building a digital life — photos, accounts, memberships, even money in the form of crypto or PayPal balances — and then we leave it behind with no map, no keys, and no instructions.
The good news: the major tech companies have finally built tools for this. Apple has Legacy Contact. Google has Inactive Account Manager. Facebook has memorialization. Your bank has something called Transfer on Death. You can set all of this up in an afternoon, and you do not need a lawyer to start.
This guide walks you through every piece of it — what counts as a digital asset, how to set up each company's legacy feature, how to safely pass on your passwords without writing them into your will, and what conversations to have with your family now so they are not scrambling in the worst week of their lives.
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