Caregiver Phone Setup
A 12-step checklist for setting up an aging parent's phone.
For adult children
Mom or Dad got a new phone. The default settings are NOT designed for them — they're designed to look pretty in store demos. These 12 changes turn any phone into a phone for someone over 70. Takes about 30 minutes.
The Checklist
- Make text BIG. Settings → Display → Text Size → push the slider as far right as they can comfortably read.
- Bold all text. Settings → Display → Bold Text → ON.
- Bigger app icons. iPhone: Settings → Display → Display Zoom → Larger Text. Android: Settings → Display → Display Size.
- Set up Medical ID — emergency info on lock screen. (See our Medical ID Setup tool.)
- Set up Emergency SOS — one button calls 911. (See our Emergency SOS Setup.)
- Add favorites. Open Phone → Favorites → add your number, spouse, doctor's office, pharmacy, and one or two close friends. They tap a name — no scrolling.
- Set up tap-to-pay. Apple Pay or Google Pay. Safer than swiping a card. Show them how once. (See Tap-to-Pay Setup.)
- Turn on two-factor on Apple ID / Google account, email, and bank. Add YOUR number as a backup. (See Two-Factor Coach.)
- Block spam calls. iPhone: Settings → Phone → Silence Unknown Callers → ON. Android: install carrier's free spam filter. (See Block Spam Calls.)
- Photo of each contact. Open Contacts → tap a name → Edit → Add Photo. Now when family calls, their face shows on the screen. Big help for memory.
- Set up Find My / Find My Device. So if the phone is lost, you (and they) can find it. Add yourself as a family member.
- Print the cheat sheet. List of important phone numbers, the home Wi-Fi password, the Apple ID/Google email and password (in a safe place), and 5-10 things they ask about most often. Tape it to the fridge or inside a kitchen cabinet.
Bonus moves
- Family Sharing (Apple) or Family Link (Google) — lets you see if their phone is offline, share their location, and help with App Store purchases.
- Add yourself as Legacy Contact on their Apple ID / Google account. (See Digital Legacy Setup.)
- Set up a password manager like 1Password or Bitwarden. They forget passwords; the manager remembers. Set up Emergency Access so you can help.
- Schedule a 6-month checkup. Put a calendar reminder to come back, update apps, check storage, and refresh the cheat sheet.
- Practice video calling. FaceTime or WhatsApp. If they only ever video-call once a week, that's still a huge win.
Apps to install
- Their bank's app — set it up together so you've seen their login.
- Their pharmacy's app — refills are 2 taps.
- MyChart or their hospital's portal — for results and messaging the doctor.
- WhatsApp — if cousins or grandkids use it.
- Maps (Apple Maps or Google Maps) — even if they don't drive much, useful for store hours and directions.
- Magnifier (iPhone has a built-in one) — for reading menus and price tags.
Most important
Don't try to teach everything at once. Pick 2-3 things they'll use this week, and only those. Come back next month and add 2 more. Confidence beats coverage every time.