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    Death Doula Guide

    Like birth doulas — but for end of life.

    What death doulas do

    • Emotional support to dying + family.
    • Help plan end-of-life wishes.
    • Hold space at bedside.
    • Coordinate with hospice.
    • Guide family through process.
    • Vigil during active dying.
    • NOT medical care.

    vs hospice

    • Hospice — medical care, Medicare-covered.
    • Doula — emotional + practical support.
    • Both work together.
    • Doula = additional hands.
    • NOT replacement for hospice.
    • Family gets more support.

    Cost

    • $50-100/hour typical.
    • $200-2,000 packages.
    • NOT covered by Medicare.
    • Some sliding scale.
    • Volunteer doulas exist (free).
    • Some hospitals offer free.

    Find a doula

    • NEDA (National End-of-Life Doula Alliance) — find directory.
    • INELDA (International End of Life Doula Association).
    • Hospice referrals.
    • Hospital social workers know.
    • Senior centers may.
    • Faith communities.

    When useful

    • Limited family support.
    • Family geographically far.
    • Complex emotional issues.
    • Desire for non-religious spiritual support.
    • Want to plan in advance.
    • Solo aging.

    Plan ahead

    Some seniors hire doula years before for advance planning + relationship building. Most beneficial during last weeks/months. Death doulas growing field. Better when arranged before crisis. Provides peace + dignity.